Tips For Being A Good Parent

Being a parent can be one of the most rewarding and rewarding experiences of your life, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. No matter how old your kids are, you’re never done. To be a good parent, you need to make your children feel valued and loved. You also have to teach them the difference between right and wrong. At the end of the day, the most important thing is to create a growth environment where your children can thrive and grow into self-confident, independent and caring adults. If you want to know how to be a good parent, read this article carefully.

Show Affection And Closeness To Your Child.

   Sometimes the best thing you can give your child is love and affection. A warm touch or a tender hug can show him how much he cares about his child. If it’s your kid, don’t ignore the physical connection. Here are some ways to show your love and closeness:

• A sweet hug, a little encouragement, appreciation, approval, and even a smile can greatly affect the self-confidence and well-being of their children.
• Tell your kids every day that you love them, no matter how angry they are.
• Hug and kiss often. Make sure your children are comfortable with love and affection from birth.
• Love them unconditionally. Do not force your love that your children can only win if they become who you want. Let them know you will love them no matter what.

Praise Your Children

   Praising your children is an important part of being a good parent. You want your children to feel good and proud of their achievements. If you don’t give them the confidence they will need on their own in the world outside, then kids won’t feel strong enough to be independent and adventurous.

   Make it a habit to praise your children at least three times as much as the negative comments you make to them. While it is important to tell your kids when they’ve done something wrong, it’s just as important to build a positive feeling about themselves.

   If they are too young to fully understand, praise their children with applause and lots of love. If you encourage them to do everything they do, from going to the toilet on their own to getting good grades, you also ensure that they live a happy and successful life.

   “Well done!” Avoid common phrases like. Instead, use descriptive praise that will let them know exactly what is appreciated. For example, “You were great at taking turns while playing games with your sister” or “Thank you for cleaning your toys after playing!” You can use expressions like.

Avoid Comparing Your Children With Other Kids and Especially Siblings

   Every child is an individual and unique. Celebrate their differences and instill in each child the desire to follow their interests and dreams. Failure to do so can cause a feeling of inferiority in your child and so they will have the idea that they will never be good enough in your eyes. If you want them to improve their behavior, tell your children to achieve their goals according to their own preferences, rather than telling them to behave like siblings or children of your neighbors.

   Comparing one child with another also causes the child to develop a rivalry with his siblings. You want to develop a loving, not competitive relationship between your children.

   Avoid favoritism. Polls show that many parents have their favorite children, but many children think they are not their favorite. If children struggle among themselves, choose sides, but be fair and impartial.

   Overcome natural birth order trends by ensuring that each child is responsible for him or her. Getting the older child to take responsibility for the smaller child is to foster sibling rivalry. On the other hand, enabling them to take their own responsibilities increases individuality and self-confidence.

Listen to Your Child.

   It is important to ensure that communication with your child is two-way. You shouldn’t be just a rule-making figure in front of the child. On the contrary, you should listen to your children when they have problems. You must be able to express your interest in your child and involve yourself in their lives. You have to create such an environment that the child’s problem, no matter how big or small, can come to you about his problem.

   You can even schedule a special time each day to talk to your child. This can happen just before sleep, at breakfast, or while walking home after school. Consider this time sacred and avoid checking your phone and getting distracted.

   If the child tells you that he has to tell you something, make sure he takes it seriously. If now is the right time, drop everything you have and listen carefully or set a time when you can actually listen.

   Don’t underestimate your child’s intelligence. Children have traits to share insights or feelings when something goes wrong (or right). Take time to listen to their views.

Make Time For Your Children

    But make sure you don’t bore them or overwhelm them. There is a difference between protecting someone and imprisoning them with your stubborn demands. You want your children to see your time together as sacred and special, without feeling like they have to spend time with you.

   Spend time with each child. If you have more than one child, try to divide your time evenly.

   Listen to your children and respect them.         

   Respect what they want to do in their life. But do not forget that you are the parent. Children need limits. Children who are allowed to behave as they wish and pampered by fulfilling their wishes have difficulties in their adult lives when they must obey the rules of society. You are not a bad parent if you don’t let your kids have what they want. You can say no, but for saying no you have to give a reason or alternative. “Because I say so” is not a valid reason.

   Make time to go to the park, amusement   park, museum or library according to your children’s interests.

   Participate in school activities. Do homework with your kids. Attend parent meetings to learn about their situation at school.

Be With Them in Important Moments

   It may be a busy schedule, but do everything you can to be there at the crucial moments in your kids’ lives, from ballet recitals to high school graduation. 

   Remember that children grow up pretty fast and will fly out of the nest without you realizing it. He may or may not know that the boss missed the meeting, but they will certainly remember that the children were not in the game. While you don’t have to give up everything for your kids, at least try to be there for the important moments.

If you’re too busy for your kid’s first day at school or another important moment, you may regret it all your life. And you don’t want your kid to remember high school graduation as a moment when their parents didn’t come.

Set Reasonable Rules

   Set rules that will ensure that every person evolves into a happy and productive life. Setting model rules for the ideal person in his mind. Put in rules and guidelines that will contribute to their development and growth instead of rules that your children feel that they are stuck and cannot act without doing something wrong. Ideally, your child should love you rather than fear you.

   Make your rules clear. Children should know well the consequences of what they do. If you give a penalty, make sure they understand the cause and the mistake. If you do not clearly state why and why they were wrong, punishment will not have the discouraging effect you want.

   Make sure you not only set reasonable rules, but also follow them reasonably. Avoid being too harsh or punishing ridiculously harsh for minor mischief. Also avoid anything that could physically hurt your child.

Try to Control Your Temper As Much As Possible.

   When explaining or applying the rules, it is important to be calm and reasonable. You want your child to take you seriously instead of fearing you or thinking you are unstable. Obviously this can be challenging, especially if your kid is misbehaving or frustrating you, but if you think he’s going to raise your voice, take a break, step aside and let your kids know they’ll be upset soon.

   Sometimes we all get angry and lose our control. If you do or say something you regret, you should apologize to your child and let them know you made a mistake. If you pretend that your behavior is normal, then they will try to imitate you.

Be Consistent.

   It’s important to always follow the same rules and resist your kids manipulating you to make the exception. If you allow the child to do something he shouldn’t do just because he’s having a nervous breakdown, this exception shows that his rules are violable. If you say to yourself more than once, “OK, one time is fine…” then you need to work on maintaining more stable rules for your children.

If the child feels the rules are violable, they will have no incentive to stick to the rules

Build a Good Partnership With Your Spouse.

   If you have a spouse, it is important for your child to think of the two of you together as happy: two people saying “yes” or “no” to the same things at the same time. If children think that their mothers will always say yes and their fathers will always say no, then they may think that one parent is “better” or more easily manipulated than the other. They should see you and your spouse as one, so order is established in their home. Also, you and your spouse will not find yourself in a difficult situation just because you cannot agree on certain issues about raising children.

   This does not mean that you and your partner should agree 100 percent on everything about children. But it gives the impression that you are working together, rather than against each other, to solve the problems that children get involved in.

   You should not argue with your spouse in front of the children. If they are asleep, argue quietly. Children feel insecure and scared if they hear their parents quarreling. Also, children learn to argue with each other the way their parents argue with each other. Show them that people might disagree and resolve their differences peacefully.

Teach Your Children to Be Organized.  

   Children need to feel that there is order and logic in their home and family life. Thus, they can feel safe and peaceful and live a happy life both at home and outside. Here are some suggestions for keeping their children in order:

• Set boundaries like bedtime and house arrest. So they can learn that they have limits. By doing so, they can truly feel loved and cared for by their parents. They may rebel against these limits, but they enjoy knowing that their deeply anxious parents guide and love them.
• Develop a sense of responsibility by giving them work or “housework” and give them some kind of privileges (money, coming home late, more game hours, etc.) in return for these jobs. If they don’t do these things, withdraw these privileges as “punishment”. Even the youngest child can learn this reward or result concept. As kids get older, give them more responsibility and more rewards or punishments for completing or ignoring these jobs.
• Teach what is right and what is wrong. If you are religious, take your children to your worship place if interested. If you are an atheist or agnostic, teach your moral stance about events. In either case, be prepared to be hypocritical or to say that your child is not pretending to be ‘preaching’.

Criticize Your child’s Behavior, Not Your Child.

   It is important that you criticize your child’s actions instead of the child. You have to make sure your child learns that they can achieve anything they want with their actions, rather than being stuck with being one type of person. Let your child know that he has the power to improve his behavior.

   If your child misbehaves in a harmful and vindictive way, tell him / her that this behavior is unacceptable and offer alternatives. Avoid phrases like: “You’re naughty.” You could say instead: “It’s pretty bad that you treat your little sister badly.”  

Also explain why the behavior is bad.

   Be confident but polite when showing that they’re doing something wrong. Be stubborn and serious, but don’t be mean or mean when you tell them your expectations

   Avoid humiliation in the middle of everyone. If he’s misbehaving in the middle of everyone, pull him aside and sneak out.

Teach Your Kids to Be Independent.

   Teach your kids that it’s normal to be different and that it’s okay not to follow the crowd. Teach them to distinguish right from wrong when they are younger, and they will make their own decisions (rather than not) instead of listening to or following others.   

   Remember that your kid is not an extension of you. Your child is an individual under your care, not a chance to relive his life through him.

   When children are old enough to make their own decisions, encourage them to choose what extra-curricular activities they want to do or play with their friends. If you think the activity is not too dangerous or that your playmate is not having a bad effect, you should let your children make up their own mind.

   A child can be of opposite nature. For example, he is introverted, you are extroverted and may not adapt to the patterns and style you choose. Instead, it will make its own decisions.

   Children need to learn that their actions (good and bad) have consequences. By doing so, you help them to be good decision makers and problem solvers so they’re ready for independence and adulthood.

   Do not routinely do things that your children can learn on their own. While bringing them a glass of water before bedtime is a good way to help them fall asleep faster, they will always wait if you do this too often.

Respect Your Child’s Private Space

   So that they respect your private life, you, too, respect their private space. For example, if you are teaching your child that your room is out of bounds, do the same with their room. Make them feel that when they enter their room, no one will look at them through the drawers or read their diaries. This allows them to know their own space and to respect the privacy of others.

If your kid catches you scrambling their stuff, it will take them a long time to really trust you again.

Let Your Children Experience Life for Themselves.

   Always make the decisions for them because they must learn how to live with the consequences of the choices they make. Eventually they will have to learn to think for themselves. It is best if they start to minimize negative consequences and highlight positive results while you are still with them.

   Children need to learn that their actions (good and bad) have consequences. By doing so, you help them become good decision makers and problem solvers, and so they’re ready for independence and adulthood.

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